main Love Language is Service. When I focus on him by serving him and following
through with what is important to him, he feels loved. So, when I prepare our
home for his arrival with a hot dinner, he feels valued and honored.
disappointing as a my husband recently accidently breaking his leg two days
after us booking our vacation was to us, it became a huge blessing in disguise.
I became his right hand (wo)man.
Not only did God reveal to me
how little I normally help him (before the boot and crutches), but how much I
really enjoyed serving him.
Make a point each day to fill him up
with your words, actions, positive body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice with
pure love and acceptance. Take this challenge and the fruit will most certainly
follow!!!! Lord, guide us as to how to serve our beloved ones, In Jesus name,
“Do nothing from rivalry or
conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Philippians2:3
2)Respond without Reacting or Retaliating
The way we
treat those we live with is our legacy, it’s the sermon we preach and how we
will be remembered. Gentleness, God spoke to meafter
I totally overreacted over something, in retrospect, IT was so very
simple as treating others the way we want to be treated. As I tell my kids, and
God has reminded me of the same principal, “You are only responsible for YOUR
behavior.” Commit to walk upright with a pure heart and His fruit will
we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with
the Spirit.” Galatians 5:25
3)Purge habitual sin:
yourself before God and your husband. A controlling
woman/wife/mother is NOT led by the spirit. Plus, it's so very
unattractive! Repent and be free.
not allow yourself to compare yourself or husband to another. Ever! Look at
yourself and your hubby through God’s eyes. God forgave me and he opened
my eyes to all the beauty and gifts we both were given. I now truly
adore and delight in my gift from God, my husband. Confess and live in
will hinder you like no other!! Not only does holding onto hurt open doors up
for enemy activity in your life, it will separate you emotionally from others as you will undoubtedly will start to operate in self-protection. Release all pain/hurt and nail it to the cross and
allow God to be your defender. Lighten your load and
improve your overall outlook (and your looks…Sin shows on your
appearance), pray and ask the Lord what is hidden deep in your heart that needs
to come to the light today!
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and
know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and
lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24
just me or does verse 4:9 make your heart race too?The very thought of a man telling a woman she
has captured his heart is the stuff romance novels, movies, and songs are made
understand real life is so much better than romantic movies, and we
shouldn’t put pressure on our spouse to be like the fantasy men we see on
television, however, who wouldn’t love to hear their spouse say the line from
Jerry Maguire, “You Complete Me”chill bumps!!We see
in this week’s passage that the Shulammite woman has totally captured King
He speaks of her
beautiful eyes, hair, teeth, lips, neck and breasts.He expresses how beautiful he perceives her
to be and he could quickly spot her face in a crowd of a thousand
women.He sees her as truly unique.She was the only girl for him.
is it about the Shulammite woman that could so impress such an impressive
king?Looking back over the entire text
the reader finds many keys to her influence:
She is assertive (v.
She is attractive (v.
She issuggestive (v.
She is a friend (v. 2:3)
She issensual (v.
She is anticipatory (v.
She is in love (v. 2:16)
She is self-confident (v. 3:1-2)
is flirtatious (v. 5:3)
admires her man (v. 5:10)
is creative (v. 6:2-3)
She is imaginative (v. 7:11)
She is dedicated (v. 8:6)
pretty amazing and King Solomon can see what a remarkable wife this woman is to
look over this list I can easily see that it is quite intimidating.What the Proverbs 31 woman is to home-making
this woman is to love-making.Put them
both together and watch the sparks fly!
One main thing the Shulammite woman was NOT - she was not distracted from her objective, she was focused on her man. She was NOT too busy to "sit in his shade" 2:3. A huge disadvantage 21st century women share is the amount of obligations we have and the potential for less than perfect time management skills.
what does this mean to me personally?How could I ever live up to either one?How can I compare?
Answer – don’t compare yourself to anyone.Celebrate who God made you to be and what He
has designed you to accomplish.Look
upon both the Shulammite woman and the Proverbs 31 woman as excellent
guidelines to follow and reference, but be yourself.Be your best self and be the best you can be
for your spouse.