One of the most helpful things in my life has been to stop defending myself in my own power.
Allow God to defend you and trust him at his word. Doing this in full faith we get to see his hand in our circumstances, but we also stop pushing people away from us by being so abrasive.
Put on the full armor of God each day. God's word is our sword and the source of all truth. Faith is our shield.
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Stand Firm then, with the belt of TRUTH buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of RIGHTEOUSNESS in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from THE GOSPEL OF PEACE. In addition to all this, take up the shield of FAITH, with which you can extenguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the HELMET of SALVATION and THE SWORD OF THE SPIRIT, which is the word of God."
Ephesians 6:10-17 (emphasis mine)
"The Lord is your mighty defender, perfect and just in all his ways; Your perfect and just in all his ways; Your God is faithful and true; he does what is right and fair." Deuteronomy 32:4
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