Friday, October 20, 2017

Rose Colored Glasses

Rose Colored Glasses

In our marriage there has definitely been times when I had the wrong perspective.

There was a period of time when disappointment was a cloak that I wore continually and it tainted everything... even in good times I could still find things to be disappointed about.

One specific day stands out in my memory and it was a reality check, and I believe, God's way to wake me up.

So, we had an upright piano in our dining room that was taking up space and making things too crowded. We decided to give the piano to my son's guitar teachers sister. 

One day I pulled into our street and I saw my husband's truck in front of the house with a U-haul attached to it.

When I saw this I had a sinking feeling, what if he was moving out, what if he was leaving, what if he was leaving me for another women??

I literally felt the reality of how this could (and would) happen if I continued to be so unhappy and miserable. 

Everything changed that day, including my perspective and I now choose to wear rose colored glasses. 

I now see ALL his beauty and enjoy him immensely.

The Lord asked, "Is it right for you to be angry?" 
Jonah 4:4

"Love does not hold a record of wrongs."
1 Corinthians 13:5

"I want to see beauty. In the ugly, in the sink, in the suffering, in the daily, in all the days before I die, the moments before I sleep." 
~Ann Voskamp from her book, One Thousand Gifts

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Friday, October 13, 2017

No Looking Back

No Looking Back
 Living your life in the past means you have no hope in the future. Living with no hope in the future means you live in a prison.

Our family counselor once pointed out to us that I was dwelling in the past and my husband was always planning for the future. 
So neither one of us was able to enjoy the present.

You should certainly learn from your past, but do not make the mistake of living there. The past will certainly steal from your future if you allow it. 

Being present with your loved ones takes some practice because there will always be distractions. But having faith that God is in control of your future, makes it easier to relax and enjoy the present. So make a conscience effort to put down your phone, turn off the radio, kneel down to look into the child's eyes, and give them your full attention.  Enjoy your husband, be spontaneous, maybe even a little irresponsible, he will love you for it.

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." ~Isaiah 43:18-19

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Friday, October 6, 2017

Connected To The Source

Connected To The Source

Feeling drained? Do You feel like you are just spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere?

Have you ever looked down and saw that your charge cord was plugged into your phone or computer, but not the outlet in the wall? What good is it if the plug is just laying on the floor?

How often do we operate each day in our own power and not connected to our Source of Power? 

If we make a point to seek God's Face and give him the reigns of our daily things, he will certainly lead us in the way we should go.

Trust God at His word, and Plug in!

"..but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:31
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Friday, September 29, 2017

Stand By Me

Stand By Me

We were not created to walk this life alone. 
That doesn't mean marriage is for everyone; it just means there's value in having trusted friends, a mentor and/or someone younger you can disciple. 

Do you desire to have close and fulfilling relationships?
Some of you are surrounded by people and yet still find yourselves lonely. 

There is more to having close relationships than merely knowing and working with people. You first must allow yourself to be known. Being known is not typical surface conversation of the current weather or how the new car drives. 

Being known is opening yourself up with someone by building connection and trust. This allows you to be vulnerable and share more of you. 

Delve deeper into someones life to grow closer by asking them: "How are you, really?" and even more intimate,  "Let's pray together." Some difficult situations don't require words at all, but just being there.

Ask someone you care to know deeper to go have coffee and open your heart and listen--most people just want to be heard.

Life is so much more rich with friends and family, but if you won't lean in to the hearts of those you know,
you won't have the connectedness or closeness.   

Stay close to people who feel like sunlight.

Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.

"The greatest risk any of us will take, is to be seen as we are." ~Cinderella

"Wherever you go, I will go; wherever stay, I will stay." Ruth 1:16

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Friday, September 22, 2017

Fork In The Road

Fork In The Road

"Choose whom you will serve." Joshua 24:14-15

There are so many decisions in each day that show who were are and who we are serving. Our reactions are indicators of the condition of our heart. 

When interruptions or mishaps happen in your day, how do you respond? For instance:

Spilled milk 
Child or dog throws up
Getting cut off in traffic
Long lines at store
Hubby's socks on floor
Flat tire
Lost luggage
Drive-thru order is wrong

Okay, You get the idea here. 
Life is messy. People are rude and make mistakes, or just don't care. With all that aside, what do your reactions say about your heart? Maybe all these things are opportunities for growth and/or tests to reveal what's inside you that needs pruning.

The Spirit that dwells inside of you has a list of Fruit that makes it evident that you are walking in the Spirit.

The more you start catching yourself "throwing rotten fruit" the easier it gets to use His self-control, peace, gentleness, kindness....

Wisdom calls for people to expect and and prepare for evil attacks.

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." 
Galatians 5:22

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Friday, September 15, 2017

The Opposite of What You Think

The Opposite of What You Think 

God's way is opposite of your flesh and/or what the world tells you.

The world says to guard yourself, keep safe distance.
God says to be vulnerable and transparent.

The world says to defend yourself.
God says, I'll be your defender.

The world says to hide your sin and pain.
God says to confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.

The world says hold onto grudges and past hurts.
God says to forgive and hold no record of wrongs.

" were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors." 1 Peter 1:18

"Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness."
Ephesians 4:23-24

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Friday, September 8, 2017

Respond Not React

Respond Not React

“Feelings should be indicators, not dictators.”  ~Lysa TerKeurst

Responding in complete faith, unconditional love, and sincere patience will be the only way we don’t put a wedge between our loved ones and us.

If you don’t have anything good to say, then you're not being led by the spirit.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace 
and to mutual edification.” Romans 14:19

(Recommended reading: UNGLUED by Lysa TerKeurst)

Friday, September 1, 2017

Yearn For Greatness

Yearn for Greatness

If you want this to be your year: 
Don't sit on the couch and wait for it. Instead...

Go out
 Make a change
Smile more
Be excited
Do new things
Throw away clutter
Unfollow negative people 
Go to bed early
Wake up early
Don't gossip
Show more gratitude
Do things that challenge you
Open your heart 
Be brave

Position yourself for change.
Your thoughts have to change before your situation changes. 
Why are you crying when you could be celebrating?

"No, in all things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us." Romans 8:37

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Friday, August 25, 2017

The Power of a Focal Point

The Power of a Focal Point

To have a plan in place can help you when you need to make a change, but focusing on that goal will keep you moving in the right direction. 

Having a focal point will keep you engaged on the end result making your goal much more achievable.  As you focus on your goal, it will prevent you from being distracted by bumps, turns, set backs, and even pain.

In exercise, when you focus on the muscle you are working, it works it much better.

In childbirth, having a focal point lessens brain activity on the pain. Visualizing something else like sitting on a beach with your feet in the sand, a cool breeze on your face actually tricks your brain into removing you from the pain.  

In marriage, focus on kindness and unconditional love and reap the fruitful rewards.

Make yourself a vision board, write out your plan and date it, and keep your eyes on the prize. 

Lastly, keep your thoughts and especially the words coming out of your mouth moving you towards your goal, not speaking against it.

Aim NOT to be aimless.

"So run to win." 1 Corinthians 9:24

"Therefor I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air." 1 Corinthians 9:26

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Monday, August 21, 2017

Women Gone Wise - Week 12 Love One Another Family

Women Gone Wise - Week 12 Love One Another Family
Amy Gentry
What does a major holiday (Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.) look like with your extended family and/or with your in-laws?

Conversation Starter:

Deuteronomy 5:16 tells us to honor our parents so that we may live long and so things will go well with us. No age limit is specified, which leads us to believe that as long as our parents are alive, we should honor them. Of course, once a child reaches adulthood, he is no longer obligated to obey them (“Children, obey your parents...”), but there is no age limit to honoring them.”

Conversation Starter:

Don’t get on the crazy train, when you see crazy coming – cross the street.

Jesus Set Boundaries -- Jesus Said No to Inappropriate Behavior
Demands. He withdrew from the crowds who wanted him, for one-on-one time with the Father (Luke 5:15-16).
Abuse. He fought his way through the crowd that was trying to throw him off a cliff for claiming to be the Messiah (Luke 4:28-30).
Entitlement. He didn’t give in to his mother and brothers who tried to use their relationship with him to pull him away from the crowd he was ministering to (Matthew 12:46-50).
Baiting Questions. When the religious leaders asked him baiting questions to make him look foolish he answered with incisive questions of his own (Matthew 21:23-27, 22:15-22).
Cynicism. He said no to Herod’s mocking demand, “Show us a sign that you are the Son of God.” (Luke 23:8-9).
Manipulation. He said no to Peter and the disciples who had an inappropriate agenda for Jesus to a political king or military warrior rather than a sacrificial lamb. (Matthew 16:23).
Pride. He didn’t heal those who were too proud to trust Him (Matthew 13:58).


I have a sister who is in a lesbian marriage. After I found out, I spoke to her several times about my feelings concerning her life style. She knows how I feel.  But sitting at her wedding as the facilitator said, “Speak now of forever hold your peace.” I knew I had spoken, I can now hold my peace.  I can let go and let God work on her spirit, let God convict her, let God orchestrate her repentance. I can just be her sister.   

Challenge:  Offer grace, mercy and forgiveness to everyone, everyone.   

Prayer: Father, We love and trust you! You are holy and your name is above all names. You are the King of Kings, Lord or Lords. Lead us in the way everlasting and help us to love others with your love and hold to the last commandment that Jesus left for us, to love one another.
Lord, We know that we all fail you, but that your love covers a multitude of sins. Those of us who are in Christ, wear His righteousness. Thank you, Jesus!
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