Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Saving the Home for the Holidays

By Kim Hawkins

A house is not a home without family. What’s the point of a big spread of food, a beautifully adorned tree with perfectly wrapped presents, without a family?
Now imagine the home is not broken by divorce, but the marriage is so strained that the husband and wife, if they speak to each other at all, are bitter, mean, and resentful in all action, tone, and speech while leaving a trail of hurting hearts.
There’s been so much hard work and effort to make the home ready for a beautiful holiday and many, mostly un-needed gifts (and all too often charged to a credit card) that are under the tree. 

The time, energy, and expense that is already being spent on numbing oneself or trying to fill the void could be spent to save the marriage.
 I would venture to guess that any child from a home life that’s suffering would not only understand but welcome much less for the holidays in exchange for his/her parents getting professional help.

If your marriage is suffering, even in the least, please read the article in the above link.

 Here’s an excerpt:
 “Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the broken marriages, psychologists decided to cast their scientific net on couples, bringing them into the lab to observe them and determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship were.
Was each unhappy family unhappy in its own way, as Tolstoy claimed, or did the miserable marriages all share something toxic in common?”

"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 
1 Corinthians 13:6-8

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