Walk This Way
By Kim Hawkins
“Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart.” 1 Peter 1:22
What a high calling, being a wife and mother! I’m positive that none of us take it very lightly. However, finding that perfect balance of time between our husband and children is often difficult to do. All too often our children, being so small, cute, and helpless, tend to get the majority of our focus. It seems so natural to invest most of our love, affection, and attention into the children. After all, we are responsible for how they turn out.
Primarily focusing on our children is a slippery slope that can lead to ruins if one does not quickly shift their priorities back to proper order. This usually starts with an emotional separation that while living under the same roof can quickly lead to a physical separation.
I believe (and have experienced) that there is a very high price paid when the family unit is out of order. The man of the house won’t feel very much like a man when his wife will not view him and honor him as the leader. Even more damage occurs when the wife communicates disrespect to him in speech, tone, and attitude and/or takes charge above him and behind his back.
I recently saw signs posted around the area I live in that read: Uncontested Divorce $150.00, with children $250.00. This makes me very sad for those families that such a small amount of money will end someone’s vows leaving behind so many wounded hearts.
This growing problem of the broken home is generational and even cultural. Eighty-five percent of all prisoners are from fatherless homes. We all know how a broken home affects sons, but a fatherless home is even more traumatic on daughters.
Marriage is not for someone else to make YOU happy. It is for you to make them happy. Have you laid down your life for your dear hubby? What does that look like you ask? Well, it very well could mean, quitting a great job, hanging up a time consuming hobby or sport, moving out of state (away from mom & dad. GASP!), financial accountability, adjusting “my agenda” to be “our agenda”. Just please make him a priority over ALL ELSE in your home and life. When you do or know someone who has, you will definitely see a big difference.