Walk This Way
By Kim Hawkins
“Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth
through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently
with a pure heart.” 1
Peter 1:22
What a high calling, being a wife and
mother! I’m positive that none of us take it very lightly. However, finding that perfect balance of time
between our husband and children is often difficult to do. All too often our
children, being so small, cute, and helpless, tend to get the majority of our
focus. It seems so natural to invest most of our love, affection, and attention
into the children. After all, we are responsible for how they turn out.
Primarily focusing on our children is
a slippery slope that can lead to ruins if one does not quickly shift their priorities
back to proper order. This usually starts with an emotional separation that while
living under the same roof can quickly lead to a physical separation.
I believe (and have experienced) that
there is a very high price paid when the family unit is out of order. The man
of the house won’t feel very much like a man when his wife will not view him and
honor him as the leader. Even more damage occurs when the wife communicates
disrespect to him in speech, tone, and attitude and/or takes charge above him
and behind his back.
I recently saw signs posted around
the area I live in that read: Uncontested Divorce $150.00, with children
$250.00. This makes me very sad for those families that such a small amount of money
will end someone’s vows leaving behind so many wounded hearts.
This growing problem of the broken
home is generational and even cultural. Eighty-five percent of all prisoners
are from fatherless homes. We all know how a broken home affects sons, but a
fatherless home is even more traumatic on daughters.
Marriage is not for someone else to
make YOU happy. It is for you to make them happy. Have you laid down your life
for your dear hubby? What does that look like you ask? Well, it very well could
mean, quitting a great job, hanging up a time consuming hobby or sport, moving
out of state (away from mom & dad. GASP!), financial accountability, adjusting
“my agenda” to be “our agenda”. Just please make him a priority over ALL ELSE
in your home and life. When you do or know someone who has, you will definitely
see a big difference.
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