Rules Create Rebellion
Don’t hate on the music your teen listens to (or choice of clothes) more than you love them. Their heart is ALWAYS the best place to focus your attention. Shifting your eyes to the needs of your child vs. the current stage they are in will form a trust and eventually build relationship. Critical words and tone are guaranteed to repel your child from you. Unconditional love and acceptance are the key to relationship.
Its relationship that makes a child care about your thoughts and feelings.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment." 1 John 4:18