Friday, October 27, 2017

The Heart of Parenting

The Heart of Parenting 

Training up children isn't always easy. Parents can be prepared and equipped to act in a way that properly trains children when the situation needs you.

Instead of talking to your child about their behavior, teach them the heart behind the problem.

A young child can be taught about the love of God, the forgiveness of Christ's sacrifice, and the importance of repentance and turning from sin. 

To me, this is so much more fruitful and productive than a spanking or a time out which only addresses the action, not the heart.

Use scripture that teaches God's way and it will correct the heart. This will not only train them in the way they should go, it will strengthen your bond and relationship. 

God does not see any of us as BAD and we should not label our child as such. God the Father uses each opportunity as a way to teach us and draw us to Him. 

Instead of labeling and using negative words like 
Bad, Trouble, Spank... 
Use kindness and powerful biblical words like Honor, Obey, Wise, Trust, Peace, Self-Control, Courage, Upright.

Softly and tenderly correct them as God does with all the fruits of the spirit. They will surely reflect your behavior as the grow up. You will in turn be their safe place while fostering a close relationship.

"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." Proverbs 31:26

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Friday, October 20, 2017

Rose Colored Glasses

Rose Colored Glasses

In our marriage there has definitely been times when I had the wrong perspective.

There was a period of time when disappointment was a cloak that I wore continually and it tainted everything... even in good times I could still find things to be disappointed about.

One specific day stands out in my memory and it was a reality check, and I believe, God's way to wake me up.

So, we had an upright piano in our dining room that was taking up space and making things too crowded. We decided to give the piano to my son's guitar teachers sister. 

One day I pulled into our street and I saw my husband's truck in front of the house with a U-haul attached to it.

When I saw this I had a sinking feeling, what if he was moving out, what if he was leaving, what if he was leaving me for another women??

I literally felt the reality of how this could (and would) happen if I continued to be so unhappy and miserable. 

Everything changed that day, including my perspective and I now choose to wear rose colored glasses. 

I now see ALL his beauty and enjoy him immensely.

The Lord asked, "Is it right for you to be angry?" 
Jonah 4:4

"Love does not hold a record of wrongs."
1 Corinthians 13:5

"I want to see beauty. In the ugly, in the sink, in the suffering, in the daily, in all the days before I die, the moments before I sleep." 
~Ann Voskamp from her book, One Thousand Gifts

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Friday, October 13, 2017

No Looking Back

No Looking Back
 Living your life in the past means you have no hope in the future. Living with no hope in the future means you live in a prison.

Our family counselor once pointed out to us that I was dwelling in the past and my husband was always planning for the future. 
So neither one of us was able to enjoy the present.

You should certainly learn from your past, but do not make the mistake of living there. The past will certainly steal from your future if you allow it. 

Being present with your loved ones takes some practice because there will always be distractions. But having faith that God is in control of your future, makes it easier to relax and enjoy the present. So make a conscience effort to put down your phone, turn off the radio, kneel down to look into the child's eyes, and give them your full attention.  Enjoy your husband, be spontaneous, flirty, even try being a little irresponsible by putting him first, he will love you for it.

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." ~Isaiah 43:18-19

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Friday, October 6, 2017

Connected To The Source

Connected To The Source

Feeling drained? Do You feel like you are just spinning your wheels and not getting anywhere?

Have you ever looked down and saw that your charge cord was plugged into your phone or computer, but not the outlet in the wall? What good is it if the plug is just laying on the floor?

How often do we operate each day in our own power and not connected to our Source of Power? 

If we make a point to seek God's Face and give him the reigns of our daily things, he will certainly lead us in the way we should go.

Trust God at His word, and Plug in!

"..but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:31
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