Friday, January 12, 2018

Marriage Is Meant For Oneness

Marriage Is Meant For Oneness

The Love And Respect book by Emerson Eggerichs very wisely tells us what causes a married couple start on the downward spiral. He describes it as "the crazy cycle". 

When the Love She So Desperately Desires, and The Respect He Desperately Needs, is not given. 

 Want to experience marriage the way God designed it? Many people end their marriage because they see themselves as not compatible; what they need instead is the tools to live in harmony and how to give and receive within their relationship. 

This is why many people go onto marry and remarry hoping to find "Mr. Right".  But let me tell you the truth, the Mr. Right you are looking for is actually right there in front of you.  When a wife shows her husband respect, he changes right before her very eyes.  He becomes more protective of you, more attentive to you, more complimentary but, mostly more in love with you.  

Respect is the most important thing to a man, he can not feel or give love when he is not respected, IT IS IMPOSSIBLE for him for this is the way he was created.  

So how do your show respect? It may seem daunting and it requires being selfless. 

First, honor his decisions and do not second guess him or call him out on mistakes. 
Second, honor him with your physical touch and all verbal, non-verbal communication and attitude. 
Third, prepare for him like you would any guest in your home. 
Fourth, Physical Intimacy and LOTS of it. His needs are way different than yours, but I promise that you will benefit from the connection.
Fifth, Lighten up and laugh things off together.

Cue the Marvin Gaye music.

"However, each one of you also must love his own wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." 
Ephesians 5:33

"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." 
Song of Solomon 6:3

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