Friday, April 13, 2018

Don't Be Like I was

Don't Be Like I was

Parenting w/o anger or out of control emotions is not only possible, but it's so very important.

I know how difficult it can be to not get increasingly upset when you and your child are at odds. That child may have even started to annoy you and slowly start getting on your bad side. I can spell this out exactly as it will happen because tragically it happened to my darling son and I.

When this spins out of control it is a very slippery slope and can take on a life of it's own. If this destructive pattern is not recognized and then swiftly changed it will become very costly and possibly irreversible.

My oldest child was the light of my life from the day we found out I was pregnant. The first time I laid my eyes on him my first thoughts were: 

 He was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.
 This is how God loves us. 

I would video him sleeping, just watching him in complete wonder and awe. I nursed him for almost 2 years and we were so bonded I didn't think anything could ever change that.

A completely unprepared new mom and a small strong-willed child were slowly becoming a disaster. I really wish I knew where it started, what exactly happened to us? 

All I know is that he would dig in his heels and not comply with much of anything I asked. If I said stay, he would run. He climbed out of his crib, he wouldn't stay in the grocery cart, he even climbed to the top of the refrigerator to reach the candy bowl that was supposed to be out of his reach. 

Then there's me... 
Remember last weeks Friday Focus where we discussed accumulated wounds in our heart? I had stored up hurts over time and my heart was clouded with heartbreak, disappointment, unmet expectations and so on. 

These things that were in my heart that shouldn't have been affected my relationships, behavior and attitude. 

This stuff we absorb and stuff down spews out of us (or make us clam up) when we face even the slightest problem. I reacted to my son with frustration, volume, and anger. As I would "loose it" I was not training him the way he should go, but teaching him how to be out of control. I was also slowly pushing him away and showing him that I was not safe.

When things went from bad to worse and my marriage was failing I began to surrender my own strong will and self-protectiveness and cry out to the Lord. I asked him to do his work in me, prune me and take anything out of me that did not belong.

This was not a quick fix by far but the Lord rewards those who seek him. My journey definitely had set-backs, but you don't have to be perfect because Jesus was perfect in our place. 

I've learned so much over the years and I now know how to reject the lies of the enemy of my soul, to walk in the Spirit, love unconditionally and live by the fruits of the Spirit. Which has supernaturally drawn my precious grown son and I back together. 
~All the PRAISE hands!!!~

My heart overflows with gratitude because of where we are as a family today.

"But without faith it is impossible to please God, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him." Hebrews 11:6

"And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things, at all times, having all you need, you will abound in every good work." 2 Corinthians 9:8

"My grace is sufficient for you, my power is made perfect in weakness." 2 Corinthians 12:9

"But the fruit of the spirit is love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." 
Galatians 5:22

"Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart." Proverbs 3:3

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Friday, April 6, 2018

Clean Up Regularly

Clean Up Regularly

I'm positive that most of us wouldn't dream of not taking out the trash, washing dishes, and cleaning the counter tops on a routine basis. It's a must to regularly keep up the maintenance at home for a clean and peaceful environment. They may not be enjoyable jobs, but the finished product is wonderful when completed.  

Our inner lives need the same attention. Just as you would clean dirty dishes that gather in the sink we should recognize that wounds also gather and darken your heart like offense, hurt, betrayal, disappointment and discouragement. If not cleaned up with grace, mercy, forgiveness, and maybe even therapy the 
 wounds become seeds planted by the enemy that take root and grow into destructive behavior, thoughts and attitudes. 

We can't risk not cleaning our hearts because it could cause you to react in the anger that builds up and soon you're just an angry, closed off, or bitter person. 

That damage leaves an open door for the enemy to torment you and use you like a puppet in his hands. He may even convince you that it's not you, but it's them that has the problem.

 This damage is also very bad on your relationship with God because you are holding a record of wrongs, which is unforgiveness.

Protective walls only isolate us and prevent us from the intimacy that we were created for in relationships. 

Tear down the walls you've built up for protection before they separate you from everyone you love.

Open, clean, and clear your heart for the best relational success. 
Allow God to be your defender and you can be a tender and loving Woman of God.

"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment....Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."

1 Peter 3:4

"The Lord is your mighty defender, perfect and just in all his ways; Your God is faithful and true; he does what is right and fair." Deuteronomy 32:4

"Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead." Philippians 3:13

Sunday, April 1, 2018

Lent EASTER! Thankful for JESUS

Lent  EASTER!  Thankful for JESUS

Sunday Praise   "Jesus Messiah"

"Why do you seek the living among the dead?
He is not here. HE HAS RISEN!" Luke 24:5-6

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Saturday, March 31, 2018

Lent Day 40 All My Hope Is In Jesus

"All my hope is in Jesus,
Thank God my yesterday's gone.
All my sins are forgiven,
I've been washed by the blood."
Crowder Band

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Friday, March 30, 2018

Grace Upon Grace

Grace Upon Grace

I read this book to my kids a chapter at a time at bedtime, it's full of wisdom and easy to read lessons in living a godly life. It is not just for boys either. My youngest and I decided this should be the Friday Focus on Good Friday when we read it the other night. Excerpt below taken from the book BOYHOOD AND BEYOND, by Bob Shultz.

"One main purpose of your life is to display the glory of God. Reflecting God's glory is more important than being understood. Responding to misunderstanding with anger, cutting off relationships, displays the nature of evil rather than the nature of of Him who created us. The desire to see God glorified allows us to overlook misunderstandings and false accusations. It motivates us to hold our tongues, to speak truth, and to do all the good we can. Misunderstandings are opportunities to show God's attitudes, such as patience, forgiveness, and humility.
Jesus Christ is the example of a mature man. He knows how to act when falsely accused."

"When the hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to Him who judges justly." 1 Peter 2:23

"Jesus went about doing good." Acts 10:38

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Lent Good Friday - Thankful to be Washed by the Blood of Jesus

"In Him we have redemption through His blood,
the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches
of God's grace."  Ephesians 1:7

30 Scriptures - What the Blood of Jesus does for Me

"The blood of Jesus has the power to release the grip of the great curse, the ramifications for that are immeasurable."

I am forgiven
Ephesians 1:7 (above)

Jesus paid my debt
"So Christ was offered once to bear the sin of many. To those who eagerly wait for Him He will appear a second time, apart from sin, for salvation." 
Hebrews 9:28

I am justified through His blood
"Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall
be saved from wrath through Him." Romans 5:9

I have been declared Righteous
"For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us,
that we might become the righteousness of God in Him."
2 Corinthians 5:21

I am spared from God's wrath
"Much more then, having been justified by His blood,
we shall be saved from God's wrath through Him."  Romans 5:9

My judgment has been satisfied and I am at peace with God
"But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised 
for our iniquities, the chastisement for our peace was upon Him, 
and by His stripes we are healed." Isaiah 53:5

I am able to come close to God
"But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ." Ephesians 2:13

I am cleansed from all sin
"But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship 
with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ 
cleanses us from all sin."  1 John 1:7

I have the power to overcome my enemy
"And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the 
word of their testimony." Revelation 12:11

I am spiritually alive
"Then Jesus said to them, "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless you eat the 
flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you have no life in you." 
John 6:53

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Thursday, March 29, 2018

Lent Day 38 Thankful His Grace is Sufficient

"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect
in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly
of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me."
2 Corinthians 12:9

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Lent Day 37 Blessed The LORD is Merciful and Forgiving

"The LORD our God is merciful and forgiving,
even though we have rebelled against Him."
Daniel 9:9

Tuesday, March 27, 2018

Lent Day 36 Grateful for the Good News

"How beautiful on the mountains
are the feet of those who bring Good News,
who proclaim peace,
who bring good tidings
who proclaim Salvation,
who say to Zion, 
"Your God Reigns!"
Isaiah 52:7

Monday, March 26, 2018

Lent Day 35 Blessed with Faith, Hope & Love

"And now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love.
But the greatest of these is love."
1 Corinthians 13:13

Sunday, March 25, 2018

Lent Palm Sunday Worship Hosanna!

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"And the crowds that went before Him and that followed Him were shouting, “Hosanna to the Son of David! Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord! Hosanna in the highest!”
Matthew 21:9

Saturday, March 24, 2018

Lent Day 34 Grateful for The Lord's Prayer

"This, then, is how you should pray:

Our Father who art in heaven,
hallowed be Your name,
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors;
and lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil
for Thine is the Kingdom
and the Power
and the Glory
Forever and Ever.  

Matthew 6:9-14

Friday, March 23, 2018

Lent Day 33 Thankful to be Forgiven

"Your sins have been forgiven
on account of His Name."
1 John 2:12

Words To Live By

Words To Live By

Words are free. It's how you use them that may cost you something.

What's down in the well, is going to come up in the bucket.

"The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of his heart his mouth speaks." Luke 6:45

"Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful." 
Colossians 3:15

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up..." 
1 Thessalonians 5:11

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." 
Ephesians 4:29

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Thursday, March 22, 2018

Lent Day 32 Grateful for All I Have

" And my God will meet all your needs
according to the riches of His glory
in Christ Jesus"  Philippians 4:19